DARING WAY ™
These are both shame resilient workshops. The Daring Way ™ is a workshop based off of the book Daring Greatly™. This book is about dealing with our identities in many arenas of life and handling failure and criticism…including our own. The antidote to shame is vulnerability and empathy. The physics of vulnerability is simple: If we are brave enough, often enough, we will fall. It teaches up what tools are needed to get back up! Rising Strong™ is a workshop based off of the book Rising Strong™. This is a book about what it takes to get back up and how owning our stories of struggle gives us the power to write a daring new ending. Struggle can be our greatest call to courage and the clearest path to a wholehearted life.
Every several years I go on a journey to introduce new concepts into my practice. Over the last year I have been studying the work of Brené Brown Ph.D. regarding shame, shame resilience, empathy, vulnerability, and worthiness. I was originally introduced to Brené’s famous Ted talk videos (see below links) several years back. At the time, I thought they were interesting but also a bit hyperbolic… a faddish sort of thing based on quick fixes and ‘not really doing the hard work.’
Ironically, it wasn’t until I spoke with a patient and then a colleague that I decided to read one of her books. Her work resonated deeply with me and also to my delight, I learned it was all research-based. Her research on shame resilience was not based on hundreds of subjects, but rather thousands, and that got my attention.
I was so excited with what I was reading and learning that I was compelled to incorporate this knowledge into my work with current patients. So in May of 2017 I decided to fly down to New Orleans and to participate in and become trained in the experiential process groups based on her research called the Daring Way ™. The training required me to actually go through the 2 models with 12 other therapist. The two Daring Way ™ models consist of Daring Way™ and Rising Strong™.
To say the least, the work was intensive, insightful, eye-opening, and rewarding. I gained insight into my own negative self talk, shame and self compassion or lack there of as well as my own vulnerability and sense of worthiness. A little bit about myself… since the age of 22 I have been in therapy on and off, but mostly on. I have grappled with anxiety and depression as far back as I can remember. You name it, I have tried it. In my own personal and professional work, the focus had always been on anxiety. A lot of the work touched on guilt and dabbled a little in shame. But it never dissected shame and it’s tragic affects.
My experience in New Orleans and the weeks that followed was incredible. My group and I dissected shame through our own personal stories while we reckoned and rumbled with our own negative narratives. The metaphoric constructs taught during this process gave me the tools to deal with personal and professional issues in my life. By personal, I mean relationships with myself, my family, my friends, acquaintances, and even strangers walking down the street. By professional issues I mean just that…shame creeps into our lives and destroys our creativity and ideas. It tells us we are not good enough, don’t speak up, play it safe, and don’t take risks. Risk-taking creates uncertainty and uncertainty creates anxiety and fear. We’d rather play it safe by sitting on the sidelines where there is certainty and safety but also stagnation, boredom, and often times regret and loneliness.
Since May, I began to introduce the concepts of shame into my work with patients through workshops and then individual therapy. And the results have been incredible. One of the concepts that I explored in the work is common humanity… We are not alone and our struggles are everyone’s struggles. Another concept was the antidote to shame which is vulnerability and empathy. I also explore the idea of negative narratives that run through our unconscious, sucking the life out of us, killing our enthusiasm, hindering us from enjoying life and castrating our creativity (okay so I got a little psychoanalytic there.) Often times we feel we are not enough and that we are lacking in some area. The truth is that our authenticity is enough; however peeling back the layers of armor and allowing our authenticity to show takes courage and self compassion.
So you might be wondering, “Why in the world would I spend three days talking about shame and vulnerability?” ‘Yuck’… that doesn’t sound very fun. Well, you might be surprised. Research has shown that people who know how to reckon with shame and vulnerability have more satisfying personal relationships, and live more successful careers. Normalizing failure does result in more risk taking and greater success… in all areas of our life.
The Daring Way ™ workshops are eye-opening and dare I say enjoyable. Don’t get me wrong, it is intensive and does require commitment and dedication. It is an investment in yourself, your emotions, your time, and financially. So please be prepared to dedicate the entire weekend to yourself and others in the work group that weekend. In committing and showing up, you are already practicing vulnerability and reckoning which shame. It’s time to but into practice what we have been exploring!
Now for those of you I haven’t seen in a while, you might be wondering, “Do I have shame?” The answer is “YES”…we all do, and we always will. As human beings we are wired for shame.
The objectives of this workshop are: to lead and participate in a conversation about vulnerability, courage, shame, and worthiness; to learn to access information on emotion and how emotion is connected to behavior and thought; to awaken your curiosity about emotions, your narratives, amour and shields we carry with us and an understanding how they affect your everyday life; and how to use this process at both the micro and macro levels to increase wholeheartedness in living, loving, and leading.
Daring Way ™
November 3rd, 4th, and 5th
The workshop will begin on Friday at 5 PM to 9PM. On Saturday we will begin at 9AM and continue until 5PM. On Sunday we will begin at 9AM and end around 5PM.
The cost of the Daring Way ™ the workshop for the weekend is $xxx. This includes coffee, light snacks, and lunch on Saturday and Sunday. I understand that $xxx may seem like a lot for some of you. Keep in mind that it is an investment in yourself and if one concept resonates with you the money is well spent. With that said, I understand that money may be an issue and I do not want that to deter you from coming. Please speak with me and we may be able to workout the payment plan if finances are a concern.
If you have a friend, partner, or other family members who may be interested that you would like to refer to the workshop, I am willing to offer $100 discount from your fee. Your referral must participate in a screening interview with me which will cost $150. If, after the interview, we both decide to move forward, the $150 will be counted toward their cost of the workshop.
Requirements for the Daring Way ™ workshops:
- Prior to each workshop there is a required reading: Rising Strong™ workshop’s book is Rising Strong™. Daring Way™ workshop’s book Daring Greatly™ . The books can also be download on audible app.
- Show up with an open heart and mind.
- Also, if you are gay or bisexual, I highly recommend that you read the book The Velvet Rage. I believe it will add to your experience.
If you are interested then send me an email as soon as you can to joseph@DistrictCounseling.com or complete the contact form on this page. You can also call me at 202.641.5335
ABOUT BRENÉ BROWN
The Daring Way™ method is based on the research of Brené Brown, Ph.D. LMSW. Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Brené Brown Endowed Chair at the Graduate College of Social Work.
She has spent the past fifteen years studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of three #1 New York Times Bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, and Rising Strong.
Her TED talk – The Power of Vulnerability – is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world, with over 25 million viewers.
Brené is the Founder and CEO for The Daring Way ™, COURAGEworks – an online learning platform that offers classes for individuals and families on braver living and loving, and BRAVE LEADERS INC – a platform that brings her latest research on leadership development and culture change to teams, leaders, entrepreneurs, change makers, and culture shifters.
Links to Brené Brown TED